Women who have been single for a long time are going to be very different from the usual girl you see sitting around the bar or dancing in the club. She is used to her own space, independence and doing things her own way. You might have to make some serious adjustments to the way you do things and your approach to a relationship, but it’s definitely worth it!
She Needs Alone Time
She’s used to sitting and enjoying a whole night of T.V. alone, or reading a book for hours on end without interruption: it will take time for her to get used to the idea of having someone to do things with, so be sure to keep a patient and understanding attitude when she needs her space. Allow things to happen gradually, don’t try to spend every minute in each other’s arms!
Am I Sure She’s Into Me?
She might be quiet when it comes to flirting, at least at first. This is because she’s probably getting a feel for things, and trying to figure out if it’s safe to do so. She knows what it feels like to be let down, or worse, let go. You need to show her trust and patience, because once she does open up to you it will be one of the best ways you’ve ever seen her.
She’s Got A Grip On Her Emotions
When she’s in control, she feels safe and happy. When you enter the picture this might start to cause a bit of tension for her, as she may feel like she is losing some of that control. She’s no stranger to keeping her emotions to herself, but when it comes to love she could be caught off guard and feel the need to gain that control back, if only for a while. Remember one thing: it’s not about you, and she will come back if you allow her that space.
She’s unbelievably strong
Having been alone for so long, this type of woman knows how to handle herself. If this makes you feel insecure, or even unwanted, there is no need to worry: she is just doing what she’s always known, and if she’s dating you it’s because she wants to, not because she needs to. She will get what she wants, and if that means you, all the better.
Her Sensitivity Will Take Time To Come Out
If she doesn’t immediately wear her heart on her sleeve and show you that she’s sensitive, it doesn’t mean she doesn’t want to. It’s more likely that she’s pacing herself until she knows the time is right for her to show you her vulnerabilities. Think of this like a marathon rather than a sprint, she’s in this for the long-term, and if you stick with it you will get the reward. You also can’t expect her to give everything up to you just because you’re ready for it, she needs to be ready too.
She Chose You, But She Doesn’t Depend On You
This is a very important point. Even if she’s been completely satisfied with handling herself for all this time, she has now taken the plunge in starting to share her life with you, and she has very carefully chosen to do that. This is an intense and pure connection. She doesn’t need you, but she does want you! She’s figuring out all sorts of things for herself already, and if she’s ready to pick you and have you join her in life’s adventures – you should feel great!
Give Her Time To Ask For Help
She might not warm up to the idea of accepting help from you right away, but this isn’t a bad thing. Always remember that having someone to offer her help is something she’s not used to, and she might not want to give that up just yet. All of life’s challenges have so far been hers alone to face. No doubt you will soon be taking on some of her burdens, like painting the apartment and fixing the sink when it breaks for the 100th time.